Knowing how to ask a girl to the prom can be a major concern and stressful time for any teenage boy. After all, the prom is considered as many to be a rite of passage. The last thing you want is for the girl you plan on asking to say no and for you to be left dateless. To minimize the chances of this happening, follow this guide:
Do You Have A Special Girl In Mind?
You might be planning on asking a girl to the prom that you have had a crush on since 3rd grade or perhaps you are planning on asking a girl you already know quite well.
While the chances of a girl you know well saying yes are higher than someone you don’t know, you don’t have to settle. After all, the prom is a very special night for both of you, and I’m sure that both of you want to go with the perfect person. Having said that, make sure you at least have a shot with the girl you want to ask, i.e. don’t ask the most popular girl in school unless you already know her. Her saying yes only seems to happen in Hollywood movies which have little basis in reality.
Try talking with the girl you have in mind casually to get a sense of how she feels.
- Is she flirting with you?
- Does it seem as if she would love to be your date?
- Does she hate the whole concept of the prom?
Being able to answer these questions is an important first step in knowing how to ask a girl to the prom.
Is She Still Available?
To avoid any disappointment, you need to know whether the girl you have in mind is still available to go to the prom or whether she has already been asked by someone else. There are a couple of ways of doing this:
- - If you feel confident and comfortable enough, you can try directly asking her if she is still available.
- - If you are a little shy then the indirect route might be best; you can simply ask her friends whether she already has a date.
How To Ask A Girl To The Prom?
While many boys may have concocted elaborate plans to ask a girl to the prom, the simple way is still the most effective. Simply say, “Will you go to the prom with me?”
If you are uncomfortable asking in a crowded place such as in class or in the cafeteria, make sure you find an informal place where both of you will be alone and then ask.
The best tip I can give is to touch on the subject of the prom and see what her reaction is. Does she seem excited about the prom, or is she dreading the thought of even going? If she seems open to the idea of going but doesn’t mention a date, this is a clear signal that you should ask her to go.
The Style Of Delivery Is Also Important.
If you plan to ask a girl you already know, asking in a light hearted way is best. If you plan to ask a girl you have a romantic interest in, ensure your tone is serious. If when asking, you sound depressed or bored, it will look as if you are settling and as every girl wants to feel special, this is a bad idea. On the other end of the spectrum, sounding overly excited may make you look desperate.
The tone of delivery might seem like an impossible thing to get right – it’s not. Just follow the above advice and be sure to ask both sincerely and confidently as well as making sure you hold eye contact the whole time.
Now that you have an overview of how to ask a girl to a prom, let’s get into some more simple but very effective approaches. If you get creative when asking a girl to prom, have fun with it and do your best, chances are high she is going to say yes. Some tips to remember when asking that special girl include:
1. Get Creative
Don’t just go up to the girl you like and flat out ask her, put some thought into it. Is this a girl you are dating? Have you liked her for a long time? Are you in a school club together? Incorporate something both of you like, such as a hobby, into the question. One fun example is a guy who asked a girl using a kid’s pool. The guy wrote out the question on the bottom of the pool with a marker and then filled it with water. When he brought the girl to go cool off in it, she saw the message! Since both of them enjoyed being in the water, this was a personalized and creative way to ask.
2. Make an Online Invitation
If you are bashful and don’t want to ask in person, do something online. Avoid an e-mail asking her the question; this is boring and likely to lead to a negative response. One of the things you can easily do is make a slideshow of both of you together. Write captions for each of these, like how much fun you had. These pictures can all lead up to the big question in the end! This could be a blank picture spot where the prom photo will go after the big day is over.
3. Deliver her Flowers
You can find some cheap flowers at the store and deliver them yourself for a personalized touch. You could add a small little note that invites her to prom in a sweet and romantic way. You could also send over a corsage if you want a more subtle hint.
Creativity is going to get you everywhere when it comes to asking a girl to prom. Don’t be scared and try your hardest to think of something she is going to love. Consider her hobbies and interests and you will be bound to find the perfect way to ask.
What Happens If She Says No?
If you are worried she will say no or if she has already said no to the idea of both of you going to the prom together, do not despair.
While you might think that it is the end of the world, look at it this way; at least you know that you have tried (the regret of not asking is much worse than having been rejected) as well as knowing where you stand. You can then focus on asking another girl to be your date.
The timing of asking is also another important aspect to consider. If you see the girl you are planning to ask running off to class or if it looks as if she is in a bad mood, then it is probably not the best time to ask her to be your date. Wait until a better situation arises, such as when the both of you are in relative privacy.
By following the steps outlined above on how to ask a girl to the prom, you will put yourself in a great position to receive the answer you desire.